Discussing weight loss with a loved one can be sensitive and emotional. The goal should always be support and encouragement, not judgment. Here are seven dos and don’ts to help you approach the conversation with care.
✅ DO: Focus on Health, Not Appearance
Why? Weight loss is about overall well-being, not just looks.
💡 Say this: “I want you to feel your best and have more energy—let me know how I can support you.”
❌ Avoid this: “You’d look so much better if you lost some weight.”
✅ DO: Offer Support, Not Pressure
Why? Change is more sustainable when it comes from internal motivation.
💡 Say this: “I’d love to cook some healthy meals together or go for walks with you!”
❌ Avoid this: “You really should stop eating junk food—it’s making you gain weight.”
✅ DO: Listen More Than You Speak
Why? Weight struggles can be personal and complex.
💡 Say this: “How are you feeling about your health these days?”
❌ Avoid this: “You just need to eat less and exercise more!”
✅ DO: Be a Role Model
Why? Actions speak louder than words.
💡 Try this: Lead by example—eat well, stay active, and create a positive environment.
❌ Avoid this: Criticizing their choices while not making healthy ones yourself.
❌ DON’T: Make Assumptions About Their Weight or Health
Why? Not all weight gain is due to lifestyle choices—it can stem from medical conditions, stress, or genetics.
💡 Instead: Encourage them to see a doctor or nutritionist if they’re struggling.
❌ DON’T: Use Shame or Guilt as Motivation
Why? Shame can backfire and lead to emotional eating or withdrawal.
💡 Instead: Offer encouragement, and focus on progress rather than failures.
❌ DON’T: Comment on Every Food Choice or Exercise Decision
Why? Constant remarks can feel like nagging or judgment.
💡 Instead: Support them when they ask for advice, but avoid policing their actions.
Final Thoughts
Approaching the topic of weight loss requires compassion, patience, and respect. Focus on health, not looks, and offer support, not criticism.
💡 What’s the best way someone has supported you in your health journey?
